How to get a Memorial Bench

Memorial benches are a beautiful way to commemorate the life of a loved one. They provide a lasting tribute, set in a place that holds a special meaning, becoming a place of honour where loved ones, family and friends can spend time for reflection to help grieve their departed loved one. Whether it’s situated in a public place such as a serene park or overlooking the ocean, a churchyard, or even a private garden, a memorial bench can be a healing place for those left behind to reflect, remember, and feel a sense of connection to the deceased.

Although the process of obtaining a memorial bench may seem overwhelming, especially if you are in the throes of grief, we are here to help. Keep reading as we talk you through the process of setting up a memorial bench, the various regulations in place that you need to consider, and how to create a lasting, meaningful tribute for your loved one.

How do you get a commemorative bench?

A memorial bench is not only a loving way to remember those special people in your life who are no longer with you, they can also be appreciated by the local community and offer a quiet space to sit and reflect. Purchasing a memorial bench is straightforward, however, there are a few key factors to consider before buying one that may make it seem daunting. The key things to consider are:

• Location. Think carefully about where the best place to put the bench will be. Whether you choose a place special to the loved one or to the family, make sure you give thought to your choice before making a definitive decision. Once you have decided, you will need to contact local authorities for permission and guidance on what to do next. Most councils will direct you to their website where you can fill out an application form to begin the process of getting a memorial bench.
• Style and Material. Make sure you choose a hard-wearing material so that you can ensure the bench lasts for years to come.
• Plaque. Depending on whether you bought your own bench, some councils may provide you with a plaque to add a personalised message to or you may have to purchase your own. Make sure you give careful thought to the message you wish to have engraved on the plaque.
• Installation. Keep in mind that it can take several weeks for the bench to be installed, depending on the type of bench you want and the location you want it to be placed.

Do memorial benches need planning permission?

Yes, when choosing the special place you would like the memorial bench to be, you will need to be granted permission from the local authorities to do so first. The people you will need to contact for permission will depend on where you choose to place the bench, it could include local councils, churchyard managers and private landowners. These authorities will also be able to inform you of any rules and regulations there may be surrounding memorial benches, such as permits, additional charges and other applications which will all vary depending on the area and location you have in mind.

What do you put on a memorial bench?

What you choose to put on the memorial bench is completely up to you and your family. Most choose to personalise them with the individual’s name, birth date, and the date they passed away, along with phrases such as ‘in remembrance of’ and ‘never forgotten’. However, there is also the option to engrave the plaque with a special message such as a favourite poem, song lyric or hymn, but keep in mind that the space may be limited. 

It’s important to be aware of any rules that may affect the inscription that you can place on your memorial bench. Depending on the area in which you choose the bench to be placed, there may be details regarding messaging, materials and specifications that may need to be pre-approved by local authorities. 

Can I buy my own memorial bench?

This will depend on the local council where you wish to place the memorial bench. Some councils will ask you to buy the bench yourself, however some others may supply the bench and the plaque on your behalf. It’s important to remember that if you are choosing your own bench, you will need to buy a good quality, hardwood bench that will stand up against the varying weather conditions. Hardwood benches are much more durable than softwood and metal benches which will ensure that your memorial tribute is still there for years to come.

Most local authorities will provide this information about this on their website and can talk to you about your options when enquiring about getting a memorial bench, however, it is important to find out this information before you finalise any design plans to protect you from any disappointment.

How long do memorial benches last? 

Memorial benches can last anywhere from 10 to 75 years, depending on the material they are made of, where they are positioned, and how well they are maintained. The best hardwood bench to choose would be Teak wood, as this has an average lifespan of 25-75 years. Teak is known for its durability and how well it withstands the elements, meaning it requires little maintenance.

Other options such as oak benches can last over 20 years if treated properly every six months and wrought iron benches that last over 25 years. Keep in mind that memorial benches made from mahogany, aluminium or wicker may not last any longer than 12-15 years as they are more susceptible to damage from weather and general wear and tear over time.

Find out more about memorial options at Heart of England

If you’re curious about what other options are available for commemorating the memory of a loved one, head on over to our blog on ‘Memorial ideas for those who have been cremated’ or get in contact with one of our friendly funeral directors for more advice on creating a thoughtful memorial for those who have passed.